Increasingly in counseling, I find myself saying some form of this question…

“What do you think of all of that…?”

Let me explain…

The Personal Ministry of the Word 

If you’ve read anything I’ve ever written on biblical counseling, then you know I often compare/contrasts:

You also know that I seek to encourage counselors to take advantage of the blessings of the personal ministry of the Word—factors like:

So, “teaching at” does not need to be the primary “method” a biblical counselor uses.

But When We Teach—Follow Up…and…Check In… 

Still, “teaching” can be one legit aspect of the biblical counseling process. This is especially true when “teaching” is not a “canned” one-size-fits-all lesson, but rather the exploration of a pertinent passage that is selected because of it’s particular relevance to this unique person with their specific issue.

Now, back to our title: “What do you think of all of that…?”

When I do spend some time during a session “teaching” a passage (exploring together how the truth of the passage relates to the life of the counselee), I always seek to follow up and check in. Instead of droning on with my “teaching component,” I take advantage of the interactive nature of the personal ministry of the Word, and I seek to follow up and check in. I stop talking, and I say something like:

I probably say this same follow up and check in question a dozen different ways. You can add your own dozen. The key—stop talking; invite interaction.

Discipleship Counseling: Giving a Fish or Teaching to Fish Scripture? 

Why is this so vital? If all we do is teach at counselees, then we “give them a fish.” They learn (perhaps) one truth.

But biblical counseling should be discipleship counseling. We equip our counselees how to explore and apply Scripture to their own lives. In this way, we work ourselves out of a job. We empower counselees to be their own best biblical counselor through the self-counsel process of relating God’s truth to their own lives and relationships.

Plus…checking in helps us to know whether or not we’re communicating in a helpful way. We can assume a counselee “gets it.” But we may not be “getting them” and they may not be “getting it.” So, stop. Follow up. Check in.

More About Trialogues 

Above I shared a number of ways to word the “general follow up and check in question. But exploring a text gets much more personal and specific than just that. For 100s of samples of how to craft/create trialogues specific to your unique counselee and a particular passage relevant to their personal issue(s), check out Gospel Conversations: How to Care Like Christ.

Join the Conversation 

How do you follow up and check in?

Let me check in with you? What do you make of this blog post? “I’ve yacked for long enough. What do you make of what I’ve just shared in today’s blog…?”

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