I’ve thought lately about some of the differences, discussions, and debates in our biblical counseling world.
At times, we in the BC movement “separate” over truth or love, Word or relationships, Scripture or soul, the Word of God or the people of God. Of course, the Bible integrates all these concepts.
We also “separate” at times over a focus on sin or a focus on suffering. Again, the Bible has room for both. At other times we “separate” in our movement over focusing on people as sinners or as saints. I guess that’s why I love the “saint-sinner-sufferer” concept. Or, as I like to say it:
We are saints who battle against sin and face suffering on our sanctification journey.
Feelers or Thinkers or Both?
I also sense that we separate in our biblical counseling world over folks who are hard-wired as thinkers-doers, versus those who are hard-wired as feelers. The modern biblical counseling movement was started by “Type-A,” hard-driven, doers, thinkers—and I thank God for that. We wouldn’t have a BC movement otherwise.
But is there room for feelers in our biblical counseling world? I hope so. I’m one.
Yes, I’m also a “thinker.” My first book was a nearly-600 page academic theology of biblical counseling. So, I can “do deep rational thinking.”
But I am so wired—so fearfully and wonderfully made—to feel deeply.
Is there room in our BC world for the “deep-feeler”? For the highly-sensitive person? For the empathetic person? For the “empath”? For the “spongy soul who absorbs the feelings” of others?
Is there room in our BC world for the person who so suffers with those who suffer that they experience cumulative trauma? For the biblical counselor who is soaked with sadness? Room for the person who “wears their compassion on their sleeves”?
I can weep with a hurting counselee at the drop of a hat. Sometimes, I make my fellow deep-thinking, hard-driving, Type-A biblical counseling friends uncomfortable with all my “touchy-feely,” relational, emotional focus.
And, frankly, at times I feel embarrassment over my very emotive nature. “I wish I could be like that person who seems to plow through life without ever being thrown off kilter by feelings…” And I wonder sometimes if I “fit in.”
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made Feelings
I even wonder about hitting “publish” with today’s blog. I mean, I’m emoting. I’m expressing my feelings about feelings in the biblical counseling world.
I don’t have “an axe to grind.” I’m just recognizing and expressing that we don’t all have to be wired the same way.
It’s okay if some of us are deep feelers. After all, when God declared that He fearfully and wonderfully made us, the one aspect He highlighted in Psalm 119:13-14 was our emotions.
“For you created my inmost being (kidney, reins—emotions, feelings, moods); you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Join the Conversation
What do you think? Is there room in the biblical counseling world for thinkers and feelers, for doers and emoters, for Type-A people and Type-E people (emotional folks)?
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